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In our own words: our colourful journey


22 May 2024
Success Stories

kia orana and greetings.


If you are reading this, you are sitting where we were many years ago, seven to be exact.

Before I get ahead of myself let me share with you who we are. I am of Cook Island descent from a large family. I was brought up by my paternal grandparents in Tokoroa.

University educated and career minded. My Pakeha husband was born in Te Awamutu and is from a small family. Our son was born 11 years ago, conceived naturally and without difficulties. We never thought we would have fertility issues until our boy was three years old.

After a number of attempts, herbal medicines, medical checks, pleas to the wider family for a baby/child in the Cook Islands and New Zealand and starting the adoption process. We finally
knew something was up. The issue sat with me for two reasons:

  1. I was overweight
  2. I was not firing at the right time (not sure what the right term was)

The husband was relieved about his manhood he said. When I finally got my head in the right
place and lost close to 10kgs, we tried again in 2010. Success came our way because:
• We focused on living life as individuals/ couple and a family.
• Knowing that every one at Fertility Associates was trying their best to help us get pregnant.

This was demonstrated in their constant reassurance, answering all our questions, no matter how dumb it may have sounded to our ears, and giving us that warm smile when another cycle did not work.


In September after another failed attempt we both agreed October would be our last attempt. We are now four months along in our pregnancy. I do not know who is happier, our son who will now have a sibling, us for sharing our love again, our parents and wider family who have been waiting years for another angel to join our family, or Fertility Clinic staff who have been on that journey with us.

To you we give our love and understanding as you take this emotional journey. As individuals and a family we have come out as better persons and a stronger family. Life never ended when we were told I had the fertility problem, it just got more colourful along the way.

Kia Manuia.

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The Biological Clock

This tool indicates:

  • Natural conception per month if you have no fertility issues
  • IVF success rate at the same age
  • When to seek help after months of unsuccessful attempts

If you are concerned at any stage – we recommend booking a doctor appointment or a free nurse consultation. The sooner you make a plan the better your chances in the long term.

When to seek advice early

  • If you have polycystic ovaries, endometriosis, or have been through a cancer diagnosis; we recommend you get in touch quickly so we can talk you through all your options and give you the greatest possible chance of success.
  • If you’re a single woman considering motherhood in the future; it’s best to approach us early and consider egg freezing as this can be an option for you while you have a higher ovarian reserve and healthier eggs.
Set your age and the months you’ve been trying to conceive
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Your chance of having a baby per month for fertile couples
Your chance of having a baby per IVF cycle (if experiencing infertility)

Body Mass Index calculator

Being overweight or underweight can reduce fertility, so it is important to keep your body weight within the normal healthy range.

Body Mass Index (BMI) is an indication of your body weight and can be calculated by dividing weight by height. You should aim for a BMI of between 20 and 25, as this will optimise your chances of conception.

Woman’s BMI below 19

Even in these modern times, nature knows best. If a woman's BMI falls below 19, the body senses famine and ovulation is switched off to prevent the risk of having a baby with malnutrition. Excessive exercise can reduce body fat and increase muscle mass to a point where periods cease for the same reason. Risk of miscarriage is also increased in women with a low BMI.

Being underweight

If a woman's BMI falls below 19, the body senses famine and ovulation is switched off to prevent the risk of having a baby with malnutrition. Excessive exercise can reduce body fat and increase muscle mass to a point where periods cease for the same reason. Risk of miscarriage is also increased in women with a low BMI.

BMI’s greater than 30

This can reduce fertility by 50%. Pregnancy for women with a 30+ BMI is often associated with problems such as maternal diabetes, high blood pressure, big babies and increased risk of caesarean section.

Add your height and weight to calculate your BMI